Sexual Health

In the following article that I wrote for Rehabs.com, I discuss the phenomenon of sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity: “I don’t know how it got this far out of control,” Matt practically whispered during our first session. “It all started so innocently. I went on Ashley Madison...

What is a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship is any relationship we have with another person that makes us feel drained, anxious or less then. Instead of building us up and making us feel good about ourselves, these relationships break us down in subtle and not...

The DSM-5 is the main tool clinicians- and insurance companies- use to code mental health conditions. It's also a highly controversial scientific manual for in addition to codifying mental health issues, it often stigmatizes the people who are diagnosed. On December 1, 2012, the American Psychiatric...

This posting by Dr. Paul Hokemeyer first appeared on the Dr. Oz website By Paul Hokemeyer, PhD, JD I just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey. For most of you, the book needs no introduction. It’s a hot and steamy novel that’s been a topic of...

Is 'Fifty Shades' poorly written? Who really cares?  "I think that women are giving other women permission to read it and get in touch with their sexuality," says Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, a marriage and family therapist who is a frequent guest on The Dr. Oz Show....

My Midlife Marriage By Paul Hokemeyer, PhD, JD I’m getting married in less then a month. It’s the second marriage for both my fiancé and I. And it’s a very different experience from my first.   In contrast to my first marriage, my second is a lot more complicated –...

The Beauty of a Middle Aged Woman By Paul Hokemeyer, PhD, JD Last night the most beautiful woman sat next to me at my weekly meditation meeting. Usually, these situations don’t rattle me, but this particular woman captivated me in her splendor.   Barefoot, grey hair pulled back into a...